The holidays often bring high expectations for parents. While a flashy tech product might seem like the quickest way to fulfill a child's holiday dreams, experts caution that it's essential to consider how such technology could disrupt home life. A new gaming console can lead to arguments over time limits, and a preschooler might accidentally play inappropriate games on a new tablet. Even a virtual reality headset that a teenager begged for could take precedence over in-person hangouts with friends.

Thoughtful Strategies for Avoiding Conflicts

Dr. Jenny Radesky, a developmental pediatrician who authored the American Academy of Pediatrics screen time guidelines for children ages zero to five, offers some thoughtful strategies. She recommends critically evaluating the tech you plan to give, considering alternatives if needed, and preparing to have a conversation with your child about how they'll use it. "It's good to have fun with your kids and enjoy their happiness," Radesky says, "but there are big differences in the design of different technologies that can make them more of a headache for parents..."

Is the Technology Well-Known?

Buying a gaming console with years of user experience is different from purchasing a new AI-robot companion. With a Nintendo Switch or Sony PlayStation, you can refer to expert reviews, talk to other parents, and read about safety practices and parental controls. However, for new and emerging products, there is less information available to make an informed decision. But if you research a product that's been on the market for years and have concerns, trust your instincts.

For example, a well-known gaming console like the Nintendo Switch has a proven track record. Parents can easily find reviews and advice from other users. On the other hand, a new AI-robot companion might have limited information available, making it harder to assess its suitability for your family.

Is it Really Educational?

Children's tech toys and devices often claim to be educational without providing evidence. Some have simplistic designs and distracting ads, while others claim to help with a specific skill but have a narrow scope. Radesky suggests that parents compare such products to their child's imaginative play, which can help develop critical skills.

For instance, a tablet with educational apps might seem like a good choice, but if it's filled with distracting ads and simplistic games, it might not be as beneficial as a child's own imaginative play. On the other hand, a more specialized educational device that focuses on a specific skill, like reading, can be more effective if it's designed well.

Are there any Safety or Privacy Concerns?

Each tech device has its own safety and privacy considerations. A smartphone can expose your child to marketers, predators, and bullies. A new video game might have unexpected mature content. To address these issues, parents should research available parental controls and consult reviews from Common Sense Media and Mozilla's Privacy Not Included guide.

For example, a common sense media review can help parents understand the potential content and safety features of a game or app. Mozilla's guide can provide information on a product's security standards. By being aware of these issues, parents can make informed decisions about whether to buy a product or address the concerns through parental controls.

Can you Swap the Tech out for Something Else?

Sometimes parents buy a tech device to solve one problem but end up creating more conflict. Radesky suggests considering alternative options. For instance, a parent interested in giving a tablet or phone for music can look into smart or screen-free speakers like the Yoto, Toniebox, or Mighty.

These alternatives offer different types of screen-free access to music, podcasts, and audiobooks. While they may have their own privacy issues for some parents, they can also facilitate skill-building and social interactions in ways that a tablet can't. For example, without a screen to focus on, children have to train their attention on the device's content, which can enhance their attention span.

What Conversation do you need to have with your Child?

Radesky advises having a conversation with your child about boundaries before they start using their gift. The discussion should focus on parental controls and screen time limits. If there's an onboarding process, parents should do it with their child to normalize communication about technology.

For example, when setting up a new device, parents should ensure that their child's age is accurately entered to affect default safety settings. They can also ask their child how they feel about using the device and set reasonable time limits. By having these conversations, parents can establish a healthy relationship with their child's technology use.

In conclusion, while tech gifts can be exciting during the holidays, it's crucial for parents to consider the potential impacts on family life. By following these strategies and having open conversations with their children, parents can make more informed decisions and avoid unnecessary conflicts.